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Misconceptions about the Narcissist

This is a brilliant article and if you are in or have been in a relationship with a person who literally sucks the life out of you it’s worth the read.

http://www.chameleongroup.org.uk/npd/misconceptions.html

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12 Things Happy People Do Differently <3

12 Things Happy People Do Differently

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Out of the FOG – Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

This article, http://outofthefog.net/CommonNonBehaviors/CPTSD.html, and indeed this entire website is filled with help for people who suffer maybe in silence or for those who just cannot find answers. Have a look it is quite helpful for people suffering from post traumatic stress and the website doesn’t just deal with that… knowledge is power.

Take back YOUR power!!!

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder is a psychological injury that results from prolonged exposure to social or interpersonal trauma, disempowerment, captivity or entrapment, with lack or loss of a viable escape route for the victim.

C-PTSD Treatment

Little has been done in clinical studies of treatment of C-PTSD. However, in general the following is recommended:

Removal of and protection from the source of the trauma and/or abuse.

Acknowledgement of the trauma as real, important and undeserved.

Acknowledge that the trauma came from something that was stronger than the victim and therefore could not be avoided.

Acknowledgement of the “complex” nature of C-PTSD – that responses to earlier traumas may have led to decisions that brought on additional, undeserved trauma.

Acknowledgement that recovery from the trauma is not trivial and will require significant time and effort.

Separation of residual problems into those that the victim can resolve (such as personal improvement goals) and those that the victim cannot resolve (such as the behavior of a disordered family member)

Mourning for what has been lost and cannot be recovered.

Identification of what has been lost and can be recovered.

Program of recovery with focus on what can be improved in an individuals life that is under their own control.

Placement in a supportive environment where the victim can discover they are not alone and can receive validation for their successes and support through their struggles.

As necessary, personal therapy to promote self discovery.

As required, prescription of antidepressant medications.

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Betrayal Bonds

This is a very interesting and very informative article I came across and of course had to share here, maybe it will help someone on the way to healing and understanding.

http://www.healing-arts.org/healing_trauma_therapy/traumabonding-traumaticbonds.htm

INDEX FOR THIS ARTICLE:

* Prelude to this Article: What is Traumatic Incident Reduction(TIR)?
* Understanding and Treating Traumatic Bonds: Abstract
* Abuse and Traumatic Bonds
* The Stockholm Syndrome and Trauma Bonds
* Betrayal Bonds
* Why Trauma Bonds Form
* Object Relations Theory, Ambivalent Attachment, Self-Psychology and Trauma Bonding
* The Repetition Compulsion
* Trauma Bonding and the Psychobiology of Trauma
* Definition and Components of a Trauma Bond
* Case Studies
* Conclusion
* Treatment Approach for Trauma Bonds
o Therapeutic Protocol
o Procedural Mode
o Causal Direction
o Rationale and Intent
o Preliminaries
o Treatment Steps
* References

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Desiderata

Here is a beauitful poem a new friend of mine shared with me, enjoy.

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.